I came across this blog the other day called Simple Mom. It's fantastic! I was most intrigued with a posting she had called "20 Questions for Planning New Year's Goals". I promptly downloaded the pdf and printed out a couple sets. One for me and one for the LOML. I just love the way the questions are worded. Very gentle and yet thought provoking. Look at the questions here and see if they speak to you.
If you have the time, this is another great article from her site about setting goals or making changes without the pain.